For those of you following along at home, I have to preface this with a little disclaimer, for my own peace of mind. While this post has everything to do with Jeanette Anna MacDonald (with a nod to others who know who they are, wherever they are), it is separated from the others, by title name, because I am angry. When I’m angry, I sometimes get irrational. If you want strictly facts, this post isn’t the one. This is where I have to take a moment to vent about something that has bothered me for many, many years. Up to now, I’ve kind of (and shamefully) laughed the whole scenario off, just based on how ridiculous it is. Lately, though, I’ve been mulling over the implications, and… it’s about to get a little yell-y, in here, and the cuss jar’s been paid, in advance.
On page 116 of the 1994 release of the book Sweethearts, it is said that Nelson Eddy threw Jeanette MacDonald down on a bed and raped her.
Take zero context for that because there needs be no context, when it comes to rape. That is a serious fucking offense, people. According to this book, a woman was unwilling, and a man forced himself on her, after describing exactly what he was going to do to her.
That… no. That is just outright ridiculous. Clue in, people- actual human beings have been in that situation, and terrified. In this asinine “biography,” this 50 Shades Of Shit, she laughs. She asks what took him so long.
NO. YOU DO NOT USE THE TERM RAPE, THEN MAKE IT OUT LIKE IT’S NO BIG DEAL, LAUGH IT OFF, GO ABOUT YOUR BUSINESS.
Rape is a big deal, and if you’re saying Nelson did that to Jeanette, I’m going to need some proof. You can’t say, “Oh, her sister…” (after having a stroke/suffering from dementia) or “Oh, Nelson’s mom…” Legitimate source material DOES NOT WORK THAT WAY. And if your source bank can’t cash the disgusting, trashy fantasy check that you wrote, maybe you need to shut it down.
I’m pissed off for Nelson, pissed off for Jeanette. Even moreso, I’m livid on behalf of the women who have been victimized. I’m appalled and disgusted that anyone could dare take the pain that so many women have gone through and turn it into nonsense, like it’s totally okay as long as she was flirty and he was just so overwhelmed with lust. These women live with the physical and emotional scars, and you’re like, “NO BIG DEAL, IT’S JUST A TINY RAPE.”
Where the hell do you get off with crap like this? Show me where Jeanette said it. Show me where ANYONE WHO KNEW HER EVER SAID IT. Handwritten notes from anonymous sources and supposed verbally communicated stories from a woman who HAD DEMENTIA do not work for this! Women have gone to their graves, after living for years with the demon of having been raped, and you… you whip up this bullshit, and romanticize it.
Go forth and tell all those 392 year old anonymous sources that all those “scary people” that “threatened lawsuits” are DEAD. And Tessa? OH HELL, MAYBE SHE’LL TELL ALL, SINCE THAT’S APPARENTLY WHAT PEOPLE WITH DEMENTIA DO. If Jeanette’s manuscript was so easy to scan and turn a buck on, where’s Isabel’s diary? I have this handy thing called a wand scanner that you can HAVE, just to get me evidence of this.
There is so much more that I wish I could put into words, right now. All I can think to say is that I’m sorry. I’m sorry to Nelson for having been accused, sorry to Jeanette for being used, sorry to every last human being who has been the victim, only to have this word, reserved for one of the most heinous of assaults, turned into some candy land fairy tale. I’m sorry for jokes I’ve made about flying buttons, in regard to this story, in order to keep myself from facing exactly how sick it truly is.
And if someone gives me some document, some shred of evidence, I will apologize to the author.
***EDIT: It’s okay, everyone! I guess rape is just totally fucking hunky doodle dory, if the guy has anger issues! Let me be the first to congratulate the MacEddy club in this stunning and heroic display of justifying rape! Congratulations, guess you really won that argument!***